Myth: Sex toys are only for people who have a bad sex life, or no sex life
Sex Toy Fact: Sex toys are for anyone ! Bad sex life, good sex life, awesome sex life, my sex life, your sex life, sex toys are for anyone !
Myth: Sex toys are addictive:
Sex Toy Fact:Addiction implies harm, and there is nothing harmful about using sex toys (as long as they’re used properly). It’s true that people can become used to using sex toys, and even come to rely on them, but there is no “withdrawal” and anyone can easily get themselves back to masturbation or partner sex without sex toys. People who suggest that vibrator addiction is real tend to be people who think that any sex toy use is too much sex toy use.
Myth: If a woman has a sex toy, she won’t need a man:
Sex Toy Fact: Sex toys are not replacements for people. A sex toy won’t make you breakfast, or cuddle, or tell you how much it loves you. Many men are intimidated by sex toys because they have been raised with the idea that the most important thing about them is what’s between their legs. These myths about male sexuality sink in early, and as a result most men are insecure about their sexual importance. Also, let’s remember that there are lots of women who don’t want a man in the first place, and a sex toy isn’t going to change that one way or the other.
Myth: Guys only use sex toys because they can’t get any “real” sex:
Sex Toy Fact: The cliche about men and sex toys is the guy in the raincoat, buying the “masturbator” and watching porn in his basement while masturbating. The reality about men and sex toys is that millions of them use them, in one study it was 21% of respondents, both when they are in relationships and single. The best way for a man to become a better lover is to learn more about his own sexual response. Masturbation, with or without sex toys, is the key to this, and to learning to control ejaculation. Using sex toys doesn’t mean a man is a loser, it means he’s smart, and likely to be better in bed for it.
Myth: Sex toys make sex less natural:
Sex Toy Fact:Most of us are raised being told many lies about sex among them that “natural sex” means one thing only. Is drawing less “natural” when we use a pencil and paper? Is painting more “natural” if we use our own blood, rather than paints? Of course not. Yet sex is somehow less “natural” if we use tools and toys to make it different. Sex toys are animated not by batteries but by our imaginations, and using sex toys is as natural as the people using them.
Myth: There are bad sex toys and good sex toys:
Sex Toy Fact: With the exception of a few sex toys that pose obvious risks, there is no such thing as a “good” or “bad” sex toy. Sex toys are whatever we do with them. A vibrator that would be too strong, too heavy, and painful for one person might be perfect for another. A dildo that feels sticky and looks weird to one, might be the ideal shape, size and texture for another. The trick is to find the sex toy that’s right for you, but most sex toys will be good for some people, and bad for others.
Myth: The more you pay for a sex toy, the better it is:
And the more you keep thinking this, the more money you are going to waste. Yes, there are some fabulous, very expensive sex toys on the market today. That does not mean that the toys that are cheaper do not work. I have a 40 dollar pocket rocket, and it works just as good as the 200 dollar one. No doubt
Myth: Sex toys are kinky:
Fact: Words like “kinky” and “normal” are completely relative and while they may govern what you feel comfortable talking about (or doing) in public, the sooner you realize that everyone is “kinky” behind closed doors, the happier and less stressful your sex life will be. Sex toys don’t make sex kinky, and using them doesn’t “say” anything about the kind of person you are, other than the fact that you’re the kind of person who feels worthy of sexual pleasure. Which is a highly respectable reputation to have in any social circle.
Myth: Sex toys can cause damage to your body:
Sex Toy Fact: A lot of things can damage your body. Sex toys of course can be included in that scenario if you use them in ways that should not be used. You cannot take a 10 inch dildo that has no balls and stick it completely inside someone ass without losing it. Chances are the ER doctor will be removing it. Use your brains with this one. Commen sense is all you need. Sex toys do not cause our bodies damage, we do.
Trina Read, Canwest News Service Published: Thursday, April 16, 2009
Is “I’m too tired” the new “I’ve got a headache?”
Today’s average couple is always on the go and busy, some-how getting through each day even though stretched for time, overworked and tired. It’s not surprising that being tired gets in the way of having good sex on a regular basis – but not in the way you might think.
It’s a big couple conundrum and a question I often hear: “How can we want sex when we’re always so tired?”
Well, it’s not usually the “being tired” that’s stopping you from wanting sex.
There’s a reason sleep is considered the new sex. I think exhaustion is very real and a big concern for couples. No doubt, there are many times when a couple is too tired to have sex. Generally, though, being tired shouldn’t be linked to a person’s motivation to have sex (a.k.a. sexual desire).
The problem of pointing the finger of blame at being tired is that it usually covers up for other things that have gone wrong in the bedroom: lack of communication, buildup of resentment, boring sex … the list goes on and on. It’s easier for a couple to sidestep a huge argument by not opening that Pandora’s box. Agreeing that they are too tired becomes an easy answer.
In fact, many men and women have confessed that saying “I’m too tired” has become a bad habit – they say it before they really think about whether they are or not.
Not to rub salt in a we’re-not-having-enough-sex wound, but I know plenty of couples who have great sex lives – exhausted or not. In fact, they have more sex when they are tired, because it’s their way of relaxing and feeling good – sex can flood the brain with wonderful feel-good endorphins, oxytocin and so on.
Instead of focusing on the symptom of being exhausted, couples need to look at the bigger picture of how they are having sex. They also need to wrap their heads around creating more realistic expectations about what is doable for their present lifestyle and schedule.
Sex, like everything else in life, has its ebbs and flows. Sometimes there will be periods of upheavals, and sex will happen just once a month. During calm periods, however, that can increase to sex once a week (if that’s the couple’s frequency preference) or more. Sometimes, albeit not often, couples will look each other in the eyes and want to rip each other’s clothes off.
It all starts with a heart-to-heart talk outside the bedroom, such as: “This is our extremely busy situation for the next six months. What can we do sexually, and how can we stay connected even if we aren’t having as much sex as we’d like?”
If you’re truly in a busy period of your life, forcing the “sex once a week” formula will probably cause more harm than good. Instead, focus on maintaining intimacy outside the bedroom: touching, kissing and being nice to each other.
If you’re dealing more with the daily grind of life, scheduling sex is the easiest way for a couple to keep their sex life on the radar. It may not seem romantic and a couple can feel like failures because they no longer have spontaneous sex; however, chances are if they don’t schedule, it’s not going to happen.
The upside to scheduling is it takes away any negative feelings about who is going to initiate sex, and the walking around on eggshells wondering if “tonight is the night when I’ll have to have sex.” Research proves couples who schedule sex have more sex that is mutually satisfying.
So, the next time the words “I’m too tired” come out of your mouth as they relate to sex, think about how they are affecting your sex life overall. If you truly are too tired all the time, then maybe it’s time to get some balance in your life. After all, we can only hold our partner at arm’s length for so long before the relationship starts to suffer.
-Sexologist Dr. Trina Read is an author, sex coach and international speaker. Go to trinaread.com to sign up for free tip podcasts and read excerpts from her latest book.
Well it’s been a little longer than I wanted it to be, but I am back and I have GREATTTT news too…. Sex In The USA is now going offer T-Shirts and other goodies for all you all to buy and enjoy…
Being that I write a blog about sex, I of course belong to some of the biggest sex forums on the internet today. Having been said, recently there has been a lots of posts regarding incest and actually liking it. At first I though maybe, just maybe these people are trying to get attention. Then when I continued to read all the posts regarding sex with their mothers, fathers, sisters and brothers. I realized that these people actually fantasized about it..
YUK…… YUK…….YUK…… is all I can think of saying regarding this issue… Who in their right mind wants to have sex with their family members? Not only is it absoultely disgusting, it’s just something you do not do or even think about. Besides is it not against the law?
So I am wondering who here who is reading my blog can actually admit that they have had thoughts of having some sort of sex with their family? Obviously there is many more people out there in the world today that actaully want to then I assumed.
I just cannot say to each is own on this subject.. It’s just fucking disgusting, no if, and’s or but’s about it !
Before I even go any further let me tell you now that I am in no way, shape, or form a religious person… So reading people’s thoughts on how sex is morally wrong before marriage just crawls up my spine…. And this immaculate conception shit just makes me laugh…… So if you are religious and will be offended by someone who is not, just close out this page and move on to another topic.. You have been for warned.. !!
Sex before marriage is like buying a car and not even test driving it.. How in the hell are you going to know if you are sexually compatible if you don’t try it before you commit? After all sex is an important part of being in a relationship regardless of what anyone says. If you do not have good sex, then you do not have a good relationship… PERIOD!…
Yeah yeah yeah I have heard it all from many people telling me I will go to hell because I had sex before I was married, but oh well… Rather be in hell having a good time, then in heaven being bored I say.. If there is even is such a place….
Seriously though.. Why would anyone wait to have sex until they are married? It’s not a rational thing to do at all.. The only reason people wait, is for religious purposes.. I have never heard of anyone waiting because they wanted to… Have you?
The divorce rate these days is so high, and why do you think that is!! Cause people are marrying each other without even the slightest idea as to who the other person is.. HELLO everyone is different when you are around them 24/7….. So of course these newly married couples start getting on each others nerves and “poof” the divorce issue arises… As it should.. Cause why?? Cause they have no idea who each other is and the sex probably SUCKS……
My advice is this.. If you are in a relationship and have not had sex yet, have sex !! See if you are compatible in other ways other than talking and hanging out.. Cause if you are not, there is no use in bothering..!
So tell me, what do yo think about sex before marriage… Do you think it is morally wrong to do so? And if so, why??
Double penetration…… 2 penises either real or fake in your vagina or in your vagina and ass at the same time…You can even try two in your ass.. (never tried).. Psssssst.. I do not want to hear any “tisses or shhhs” on this subject, cause yeah it is damn good.! Ya know why, cause I said so, and it’s my blog so you have to listen…
Seriously though if you have not tried it, I recommend you do immediately.. And like I said you can use a real penis and a fake one.. You get the same effect either way.. I love it either way.. Real or fake.. Although of course real is always better cause well it’s real.. But a dildo will do just fine
No worries if your a lesbian and do not have a penis!! There are a wide variety of double penetration dildos on the market today!.. A little pricey, but the orgasm you will allow your partner to achieve or yourself is well worth the extra pennies! Just take a look at Eden Fantasys for some of those wonderful toys ! And nooo that’s not my site, it’s just a really good site online to by fabulous sex gadgets!
So tell me, if you have not tried it already.. Would you?? And if ya have tried it, how was it and would ya do it again??
I personally have never had the pleasure of using a strap on dildo… I have used many dildos just not a strap on.. I guess I just never got around to doing so as of yet… But I am sure in the future a time will come when I just get that urge to go the XXX store (love em) and buy the biggest strap on ever made..
For those who are in a fog about strap on dildos, let me clarify what exactly they are.. A strap on dildo is a belt that has a fake penis attached to it.. Supposedly it gives the feeling of having your own for those who do not have one.. Let me re-phrase that.. It gives you the power to act as if you have one, not feel as if you do.. !
With a strap on you can basically screw any hole ya want to… Mouth, ass, vagina, whatever you wish..
Men who have a tiny dick or just can’t seem to get up use strap ons as well.. They can even be used for the ever so popular double penetration….. (another blog)…. !!
There are many different types of strap ons.. I mean it is endless..
Ya got your standard strap on (just a belt and a penis hanging off it), your probe strap on (looks like a thin butt plug), your G-spot & prostate strap on, the ever so wonderful double penetration strap on, (you can tell I like that huh), there are even strap ons that rotate and vibrate for extra stimulation….(I told ya it is endless)..
Then of course you go into the “erotic” strap ons (it wouldn’t be part of sex if there wasn’t some weird ones)… They include the enema strap on, also can be used to simulate cumming..(there is just a little bulb filled with warm water that you squueze when ready)…. Inflatable strap ons that get bigger as you pump, (that’s pretty cool), and last but not least the dildo that gives electric stimulation when inserted wherever it is going. (Basically being shocked in your vagina or ass)!
And do not worry if you cannot get it up guys !! Yup, you guessed it, there is even a hollowed out strap on that fits right over the penis… This gives the feeling of obviously an erect penis obviously…I dunno it just would not feel the same…
Personally I would probably hurt someone if I had a strap on.. haha. I can be very rough if properly motivated.. (wink wink)…. Now if there was a pill that you could take to grow a penis for a day, you know I would be the first in line..
What about you all, would you use a strap on ?? Or would you let someone use one on you?? Comments below………….
Recently I was going through a forum that I am a proud member of, and to my serious surprise I came across a post about a man wanting a partner for “sniffing”.. Now I do not know about you, but who in the hell has a fetish for smelling farts ?!!
I do know that people like to be pissed on or even shit on, (just damn nasty as well) but honestly have never heard of anyone putting their nose into someone’s ass cheeks and waiting for them to let out gas just so they could get off on the smell??
Who the hell thinks or does this kind of weird shit??!!
After doing some research on the disgusting subject of “fart sniffers”, I have found that there are actually recipes out there for people to get an “aromatic fart smell”.. WTF IS GOING ON HERE……
I will post more later.. More research is definitely needed on this subject so I can understand completely how anyone could be turned on by the smell of ass gases………. Ewwww :-/
All of us who love sex and love sex as often as we can, do have those days that we just want to rest an re- cooperate. What I would like to find out from all of you sex maniacs out there is this…
Could you have sex for an entire year straight? No days off, no taking a break one day, no excuses, sex at least one time day for 365 days !!!
Personally I could not ! After 5 days straight, I am ready to sleep for one whole day and then resume having sex after that.. Sex for 365 days would just exhaust me.. Specially the kind of sex I have..
I would never have even thought of having sex that long until I read an article regarding two books coming out by people who have obviously tried to have sex everyday. The books called “365 Nights” and “Just Do It” are stories from two different people who try and accomplish having sex every night, one for 365 days, and the other for 101days.
Soooo that got me thinking !!! Could anyone actually have sex for 365 days a year and actually enjoy it after half way through?
More couples over 70 are having sex – and finding it satisfying – than in previous generations, a British Medical Journal survey suggests.
Swedish researchers asked 1,500 older people across a 30-year period about their sex lives.
The number of people saying they had sex increased – as did the number of women reporting having orgasms.
A UK expert said the older people of today grew up in more sexually liberated eras.
We still have this stereotype of elderly people with their bath chairs and canes, staggering around, who couldn’t possibly be having sex – but that isn’t the case
Dr Petra Boynton
University College London
Although there are plenty of studies about sexual “problems” associated with old age, there is relatively little research about “normal” sexual behaviour later in life.
The scientists from the University of Gothenburg in Sweden interviewed 70-year-olds in 1971-2, 1976-7, 1992-3 and 2000-2001.
They found that the number of 70-year-olds reporting sexual intercourse rose in men and women, married and unmarried.
More than two-thirds – 68% – of married men in the most recent survey said they had sex, an increase from 52%, while the percentage of married women having sex rose from 38% to 56%.
The number of men reporting physical problems, such as erectile dysfunction or ejaculation dysfunction increased.
The number of women who said they were highly satisfied with their sex lives rose too.
When sexual intercourse stopped, both men and women tended to blame men, in line with the findings from earlier surveys.
Professor Peggy Kleinplatz, from the University of Ottawa, said that doctors should now be trained to ask all patients – regardless of their age – about any sexual concerns.
She said: “Sex is an important and positive part of the lives of their 70-year-old participants, and more so for the current cohort of men and women than for their predecessors in 1971.”
Sexual stereotype
Dr Petra Boynton, a specialist in the psychology of sex and relationships at University College London, said it was important to remember that someone turning 70 in the year 2000 would have been influenced by the more free sexual attitudes of the 1960s and 1970s – and also perhaps fitter and healthier than those in their 70s in previous decades.
She said: “We still have this stereotype of elderly people with their bath chairs and canes, staggering around, who couldn’t possibly be having sex – but that isn’t the case.”
She pointed out that the study did not record the frequency of sex for any of those surveyed, simply whether they were having sex at all, and focused on penetrative sex, rather than other types of sex which might be favoured by older people.
“I am slightly concerned that this will be interpreted in a way that suggests that if you’re not having sex in your 70s, you are doing something wrong.
“There are still plenty of people who choose not to have sex.”
Meanwhile, a report by Finnish researchers says older men who have more sex will experience fewer erection problems.
A five-year study, published in the American Journal of Medicine, of 989 men aged 55-75 in Pirkanmaa, Finland, showed that having sexual intercourse less than once per week doubled the risk of erectile dysfunction, compared to having sex once per week
If you are not familiar with the word ménage à trois, it simply means threesome.. Yep you got it, three people having sex at the same time..
The mix is usually mff, mmf, mmm or fff.. However ya want it, just do not knock it until you have tried it a few times over. Cause once you do, you will definitely want more, more and more..
And let’s get this straight from the get go… If you and your significant other do participate in a threesome, you are not cheating or sinning!! You are just having a lot of fun.. Exactly what sex is intended for, besides procreation of course…..
Before having a threesome however there are a few rules you need to know..
1. If you are insecure about yourself or your relationship. Do not even bother having a threesome. This will cause serious grief in the relationship.. Cause all you will do is question what went on and it just becomes a mess..
2. If you are not comfortable about having a threesome, then do not have one.. No one is forcing you no matter how much the other wants one.. If they do not like your decision, then tough..
3. While in a threesome, be sure to pay attention to ALL parties not just one in particular.. It’s not nice to do that ya know..:-)
4. Pick a person you both are attracted to.. Nothing like having a threesome with someone who is just repulsive to you and does nothing for your sexual presence..
5. Always, always use protection…… Why? Just do it…. You know why you need protection…And if you don’t then you shouldn’t be having sex let alone a threesome..
Sooooo if you can follow these very simple rules, there should be no problem.. Now all you have to do is find that other person.. It’s not as hard as you think either.. Maybe a friend that you both know… A swinger’s club… Shit you can even go on Adult Friend Finder and find someone decent there.. Just be selective and take your time in finding the right person……. No need to rush!
Have you had a threesome? If so, how was the experience!
If not, do you want to have a threesome? And what does your other half think about it?
I was completely and utterly shocked and amused when I found this article about having a “greener” sex life ! I have never even thought about saving the planet through sex.. This could be the start of something AWESOME..!! It’s a hell of a lot better than recycling and a lot more fun to achieve !
Take a look at the 10 tips that Jacob Gordon from Nashville, Tenn. has listed !
Go GREEN !!!
1. Sex toys
According to the Durex Global Sex Survey, 43% of Americans have used a vibrator. Dildos, vibrators, anal beads, cock rings, and the rest of the happy sex toy family can be thrilling and fulfilling, either alone or with a partner, but many store-bought sex toys contain, among other things, chemicals called phthalates, a substance used to soften hard plastics like PVC and provide that jelly feeling. There is quite a bit of concern about the toxicity and health risks of phthalates (in 2004, the EU banned a range of phthalates from children’s toys), especially in sex toys that are used in warm, moist places. One suspicious warning sign is the disclaimer you’ll find on most sex toy packages stating that the device within is for “novelty purposes only.” TreeHugger suggests playing it safe. Look for toys made from glass, metal, silicone, hard plastics, or elastomers. Putting a condom over a suspicious dildo is also a good move. If your sex toy of choice is a power tool, buy a rechargeable one or use your own rechargeable batteries. Rechargeable vibrating toys include the Aphrodite Wand, the Acuvibe, the Lily and Iris from Lelo, and toys from Fun Factory. Check out TreeHugger TV’s How to Buy a Green Sex Toy for more.
2. Lube
Whether you feel you need lube or not, a little extra slipperyness can add something extra to any roll in the hay. As you would with any other personal care product, go as natural as possible and try to avoid petroleum products, artificial scents, flavors, and colors. There are even organic lubes to be found. For more info on what to look out for, see How to Green Women’s Personal Care—advice also suitable for men).
3. Condoms
For safer, baby-free sex, nothing beats a latex condom. Vegans looking for a latex option (though derived from trees, most latex has a milk enzyme added) can check out Glyde condoms. The jury is still out as to whether latex condoms are biodegradable and what effects additives and lubricants have on biodegradability. According to most sources, lambskin condoms are biodegradable but are only effective against pregnancy, not STDs. Polyurethane condoms are essentially plastic and not biodegradable. Used condoms are best sent to the landfill. Flushing condoms down the toilet is definitely no good as this clogs pipes, treatment plants, and rivers. So let’s face it, reduce, reuse, recycle just doesn’t apply when it comes to the rubbers.
4. Sexy giving
Getting a stylish and useful gift is always a turn on. Organic massage oils, fair trade chocolate, or a bottle of biodynamic red wine are hot options. For Valentine’s, you can even get an all fair trade goodie bag for your lovie. Of course, romance and good sex know no price, and a poem from the heart, a massage, some hot role playing, or a home-cooked dinner for two can be the hottest gifts of all.
5. Green and sexy fun
Sexy play can be green and efficient as well. As seen on TreeHugger TV, showering together can save water (if things get steamier, we suggest taking it to the bedroom and not leaving the shower running). In the winter time, some nice warm loving before bed can get the bedroom toasty, meaning the thermostat can be lower (see How to Green Your Heating, for more). A nice bike ride for two is a fossil-fuel-free way to get the blood flowing and can also be quite stimulating, especially for the ladies. And of course the classic candle-lit dinner is a delicious way to set the mood and save on energy bills.
6. Bamboo in bed
If you’ve never experience bamboo bed sheets, you’re missing out. Bamboo fabric is silky and slippery (but not so slippery you’ll slide out of bed), wicks moisture, has natural antimicrobial properties, comes from a rapidly renewable resource, and is super sexy.
7. Eco-undies
Slinky, slippery, sexy. These are all good things when it comes to some sassy skivvies for the bedroom. Organic cotton, hemp silk, bamboo, and other renewable fibers make ultra-sexy lingerie and underwear. When browsing around, go for quality, not novelty. Buying a bedroom outfit that will be used only a couple times isn’t a great buy. Face it, unless you’re famous, nobody on Ebay is gonna buy those crotchless panties, even if you just wore them once. We suggest shelling out the extra bucks for something classy, sexy, and sustainable that can be donned when the mood is right for years to come. For something on the exotic end, check out Enamore and g=9.8. For sensible and simple, look at Buenostyle and American Apparel. For something in between, try GreenKnickers.
8. Sweeter juice?
There are some very strong rumors going around that vegetarians have the best tasting love juices (though some items from the vegetable kingdom you may want to avoid, like asparagus and garlic). If you aren’t already a veggie-lover and there’s a romantic occasion/hot date in your future, give the veggie or vegan diet a try. Even if it does nothing for your flavor, you may score points for being a good steward of the planet. The meat industry is immensely resource intensive and accounts for 70% of the water pollution in the US. Reducing your meat consumption is one of the greenest things you can do. Plus, many triathletes and other super-people swear by a vegan diet for prolonged endurance (always a good thing). For a very funny but totally explicit investigation of the food/body fluid connection, read Hank Hyena’s essay at Salon.com.
9. Natural aphrodisiacs
Since days of yore, lovers have turned to natural herbs and special foods to find stimulation, endurance, and sexual health. While we can’t vouch for any of these, and all supplements should be taken with caution and/or professional advise, it is rumored that herbs like ginseng, kava kava root, damiana leaves, kelp, tribulus, ginko biloba, rhodiola rosea, and of course horny goat weed can help stoke the flames of passion—even more so if certified organic. A host of foods are also used to stimulate the sexual senses, and of course organic wine and Champaign are trusted aphrodisiacs as well.
10. Meeting that special tree hugger
Nothing’s quite worse than meeting some really promising guy or girl and then realizing that he or she is an Escalade-driving, non-recycling, Earth fucker-upper. What are you going to do? Try to reform them? Sleep with them anyway and try to ignore their unconscious ways? Forget it. Go for the green lover. Farmers markets, Critical Mass, your local Green Drinks, Whole Foods checkout isle can be great places to meet people. A host of match-making sites (see below) can also be great venues for finding that special tree hugger to hug.
OK so I told you about the sex with robots concept in an early post.. Now we have the “Virtual Sex Machine” that hooks up right to your computer! Amazing isn’t it !!
What will we think of next !!
Take a look at the article below….
HOLLYWOOD, Fla. — Eric White believes the future of sex technology lies in a 16″ red-and-black cylindrical device that he sells for $439.69 from his office in rural Pennsylvania.
White’s device is aimed at men and, to put it delicately, is designed to provide pleasure through an ingenious combination of a vacuum pump, a back-and-forth motor, and a stimulator at the business end that he says “adds a little extra zing.”
Similar devices have been around for years — there’s the perennial gag of an inflatable sheep, of course, and the non-programmable Venus 2000 from Sybian.com sells for $815. What makes White’s contraption different is that it’s arguably the most technologically advanced to date.
That’s because his so-called Virtual Sex Machine comes with Windows software that controls the VSM through the PC’s parallel data port. It can simulate different sorts of intimate activities by, as White puts it, “varying the vacuum.” (In truth it’s more configurable than that, but good taste forbids us from elaborating.)
What that means is that it’s possible to craft an adult video with synchronized instructions sent through the data port to the VSM. As the action on the screen progresses, the electronic manipulations of the VSM’s silicone-like interior varies as well.
White doesn’t want to be in the business of creating adult videos, though. He showed up at the Internext conference here organized by adult trade publisher AVN Media Network to try to persuade the companies that own or produce videos to insert VSM data tracks. (The resulting disc sells for $40, a hefty premium over traditional adult DVDs.)
He has four porn stars signed up so far for custom discs — kind of a virtual woman-at-your-command — including a cheerleader-turned-amateur actress who runs the sammy4u.com Web site. Dozens more compilation discs with data tracks are available through White’s vrinnovations.com site.
“It adds another level of marketing ability to (an adult movie) star,” White said. “When you’re done with her, you put it back on the shelf and close the door. You don’t have to take her out to dinner.”
Next steps include a sensor-equipped version of the VSM marketed at women (or men, for that matter) who operate pay-per-minute Web cams at sites like cams.com and camz.com. The idea is that their customers will pay extra for the ‘cammer to manipulate the remote VSM in certain, ah, specific ways that will be detected by the local Windows software, communicated over the Internet, and output to the male-oriented VSM connected to the remote customer.
After that, of course, might come VSMs with medical applications, VSMs designed for couples in long distance relationships, VSMs with a software interface that allows hacking, and so on, although expansion plans may have to wait until Pennsylvania authorities stop harassing White over building permits. He had the bad fortune to place his factory in Amish country, which apparently is less than happy about being a birthplace of the world’s teledildonics movement.
For his part, White views himself as a kind of Thomas Edison of the industry: “I want to be the guy who invented virtual sex.”
Ever since I was in the 7th grade and in catholic school, the issue of sex was so hush, hush that I personally had no idea what it was until I went into public high school. And the only reason I figured it out was because of my friends who were seriously sexually active. It’s not like I could go to my Mom and ask her what it was, it just wasn’t something she talked about with me.
So as I became older and sexually active, I always wondered what the hell the big deal was about the “sex” thing and why people were so hush, hush about it.
Reality people…. We are all here because of sex.. Whether it be nasty or boring sex, we are still here from our parents having sex !
Still as I sit here and write this, I am still surprised and totally blown away by the sheer ignorance a lot of people have when it comes to sex! There are still those who will not talk about it at all, those who judge others for what kind of sex they have, and then those who completely are mortified by the sheer fact that sex is pleasurable.
What I want to know is why?
I have heard the excuse “well my religion”, bullshit ! That is a bunch of horse shit… Religion is an excuse for many, but it is not the reason.. There has to be a reason as to why some people think that sex is bad, evil, disgusting, etc.
Tell me why….. I want to know.. Maybe one of these days I will actually get an answer that is believable.
Well I guess having lots of sex is a bonus! I always knew it was….. No wonder I always feel so good after having a weeks worth..
On the serious side however, a new study reveals some interesting assumptions !! Take a looksie below..
By Steven Reinberg HealthDay Reporter
THURSDAY, July 3 (HealthDay News) — Frequent sexual intercourse may cut down on a man’s chances of developing erectile dysfunction, Finnish researchers report.
“This is the same as any other part of the body. It’s what we in vascular surgery refer to as the ‘use it or lose it’ concept,” said Dr. Hossein Sadeghi-Nejad, an associate professor of urology at UMDNJ New Jersey Medical School Hackensack University Medical Center. “Sexual activity will promote maintenance of normal erectile function down the line.”
The report was published in the July issue of The American Journal of Medicine.
In the study, led by Dr. Juha Koskimaki, from Tampere University Hospital’s Department of Urology, researchers collected data on 989 Finnish men aged 55 to 75 years old.
The researchers found that men who said they had sexual intercourse less than once a week had twice the risk of developing erectile dysfunction, compared with men reporting having sexual intercourse once a week.
Among men who had sexual intercourse less than once a week, there were 79 cases of erectile dysfunction per 1,000 men. That number dropped to 32 cases per 1,000 among men who said they had sexual intercourse once a week, and it dropped even further, to 16 per 1,000, among men who said they had sexual intercourse three or more times a week, the researchers reported.
The frequency of morning erections was not associated with the incidence of moderate erectile dysfunction, the researchers noted.
However, the development of complete erectile dysfunction could be predicted from the frequency of morning erections. Among men with less than one morning erection a week, the risk of developing erectile dysfunction was 2.5-fold greater than among men who had two to three morning erections per week.
“Regular intercourse has an important role in preserving erectile function among elderly men, whereas morning erection does not exert a similar effect,” Koskimaki said in a statement. “Continued sexual activity decreases the incidence of erectile dysfunction in direct proportion to coital frequency.”
Sadeghi-Nejad said there is a scientific basis for this finding, and it also has implications for rehabilitation of patients after prostate cancer treatment.
“What is very hot these days is what we can do to rehabilitate people who develop erection problems after prostate cancer surgery or radiation therapy,” Sadeghi-Nejad said. “Anything you can do to increase oxygenation in the penis will help get patients back to normal.”
If one can naturally engage in behaviors that increase blood flow to the penis, it will have a positive effect in preventing erectile dysfunction, Sadeghi-Nejad said.
Sadeghi-Nejad noted that the study only addressed intercourse, and not masturbation. “This is essentially the same concept,” Sadeghi-Nejad said. “Anything you can do to bring blood to the penis is beneficial,” he added.
This is for all you guys and gals who have no clue as to how to put a condom on.. Get a clue and watch the video… It is very important you do it right !
Before I even start talking about how porn can make your sex life amazing, this article is not for those who do not like porn or sex for that matter. This article is for the open minded people who appreciate porn for what it is as well as the benefits you can receive for watching it.
We begin with the definition of the word porn or pornography. Pornography or porn is the explicit depiction of sexual subject matter, especially with the sole intention of sexually exciting the viewer. Let’s repeat that one specific part “especially with the sole intention of sexually exciting the viewer”.
Now there are many different types of pornography, so if you do not like one you can easily move on to another.
All in all there is your soft core porn which does not show penetration, then of course you have your hardcore porn which shows everything and then some. Those are your two basic types. If you prefer a specific type of porn, you have amateur porn, fetish porn, homosexuality porn, orgy porn, race oriented porn, voyeur porn an of course you have your animated porn. Our personal favorite by far is the amateur, only because it is not played out like a movie.
Now I have been reading many different articles on porn, noticing that most of the opinions regarding porn is of course a negative one. What makes me ponder is the fact that 95% of those who think it is disgusting, distasteful, rank, gross, and whatever else they feel like calling it, probably have not even watched five minutes worth of a good porn flick. Betcha !
Now when it comes to using porn as a sexual stimulant in your marriage or relationship, options are endless. Even watching 30 minutes of your favorite sex video can make for one hot session with your significant other. Trust me, I am living proof and I very proud that after being with the same person a long ass time that my sex life kicks ass for real !
First and foremost you have to get a porn movie that is worth watching. To do this, you can visit many different adult movie sites on line and see 5 or 10 minutes of the movie for free. You can even go to an adult movie store that is in your area and take a look at the movie in the back area where movies are shown for a few dollars each. And if your not comfortable with either of those options, well then you can ask the person at the adult movie store what they suggest, or you can just read the back of the movie and take your chances. Regardless of how you choose the movie, do not pick the first one you see. Be selective and make sure both parties want to watch that particular flick.
Once you have gotten the flick home, relax yourself and enjoy the movie. Try and watch more than five minutes of though.. I know it can be difficult, but the more you watch, the more hornier you get and well the hornier you get, the better the sex it… FACT !
Honestly, do you know how many different positions I have learned just from watching porn… Gosh!!
Reader what about you…. Do you watch porn? If not, why not??
Let’s begin with the meaning of the word “homosexuality”. Homosexuality refers to sexual behavior or attraction between people of the same sex, or to a sexual orientation. As a sexual orientation, homosexuality refers to “an enduring pattern of or disposition to experience sexual, affectional, or romantic attractions primarily to” people of the same sex.
Does not sound bad in words. However, take that word and say it to let’s say a homophobic person, and “bam” the world has come to an end for them. Or let’s say you start a conversation with a “Christian” about homosexuality. Do you think their views will be one of happiness and open-mindedness? Absolutely not. In their huge book of rules called the bible, it clearly states that homosexuality is a sin.
“You shall not lie with a male as one who lies with a female;it is an abomination.” (Leviticus 18:22)”
If there is a man who lies with a male as those who lie with a woman, both of them have committed a detestable act; they shall surely be put to death” (Leviticus 20:13)
Put to death for having a same sex relationship?
Basically with these specific passages, the bible promotes “hate crimes” and the killing of an individual or individuals simply over their sexual preference. I am reading the passages clearly, there is no in between the lines when it comes to the bible. What’s written is what is written. Plain and simple or better yet, black and white.
What astonishes me is what business is it of mine or anyone else’s as to someone else’s sexual preference? I myself have two daughter’s who are clearly bi-sexual. Does it bother me or their father? Absolutely not! We have raised our seven kids in to believing that no one is more or less superior. That all people deserve respect no matter who or what race they are.
Here is a perfect example of someone who is completely close minded. In a forum I belong to at Topix.net a woman clearly writes: “It’s not a matter of thinking something is right or wrong. It’s a matter of what God has said. It is abundantly clear from the Bible that any type of sexual contact outside of marriage (man to woman) is wrong. Sure, we might get around people who say our sexual choices, escapades, etc are okay, but right and wrong aren’t relative. Right and wrong is black and white.
Homosexuality is wrong.”What is that !!! What does that mean?
Do we not have our own voice or choice in the matter as to who we love or care about? Or does this big book of rules cloud up the minds of nearly half the population?
Another example is the Westboro Baptist Church better known to most as the “God Hates Fags” campaigners. These anal retentive idiots go all around the country preaching that homosexuality is a sin as well as many other issues. Homosexuality of course being the main issue. In a nut shell they promote hate, and truly believe that by promoting these hateful speeches and picketing sessions, that somehow they themselves are superior to anyone else and will be saved by their Lord Jesus Christ.
Unfortunately people like those who belong to the Westboro Baptist Church get to hide behind freedom of speech and promote all the hate they want without ever facing any consequences as to what it might do to those who are not to familiar with the world around them. This goes to Christians and other religions as well who say they love everyone, however the “everyone” has to be to their specifications. If by any chance certain people do not meet their specifications, then those people are denied their right to be part of the church congregation.
What I truly want to understand is why do you feel the need to bash homosexuality? Does it make your life better by belittling someone else based on their sexual preference? Last but not least, what makes you religious people think that you yourself are not the ones who are labeled a sinner for denying someone a happy life based purely on the fact that they are different?
Everybody’s journey is individual. If you fall in love with a boy, you fall in love with a boy. The fact that many Americans consider it a disease says more about them than it does about homosexuality. ~James Baldwin
Not going to be a long post just actually a question that I would like some feedback on ! So that means yall have to comment this blog so I can collect some info !!
Anyway…
Love and Sex……… Do you think that the two should go together or do you think it is alright to have sex without the love..
Me personally think sex is sex and love is love.. And you can have the two either together or seperate ! Really does not matter to me..
However this is a blog all about sex sooooooooo I need some answers from you who read this blog !!
Yep you got it and you should have known it was coming.. BDSM also know as bondage and discipline , domination and submission as well as sadism and masochism!
Uh huh many are like OMG I would never, however if you would just open your mind and stop looking at the word sadism, you might enjoy the hell out of yourself ! Cause yea there is nothing like a little or a lot of ass smacking, handcuffing, blindfolding sex !
So for those who have no clue as to what it is, the actually definition is this ! The term “BDSM” is an abbreviation derived from the terms bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism.It defines a spectrum of behaviors, including dominance, submission, punishment, masochism, bondage, role play, and a large variety of other activities, frequently sexual in nature. “BDSM” is the collective term for a group of related sexual preferences common in issue-related literature, which are sometimes referred to as “D/s”, “Sadomasochism”, or “S&M
Damn confusing isn’t it ! But no worries, I will explain it in a much easier way !
Soo BDSM, what is it? Basically tying up your lover, bossing your lover around and hundreds of other things come into play when practicing and enjoying BDSM. In the easiest terms possible, BDSM is when the submissive person submits to the dominant person.. The submissive person then allows the dominant one to do whatever they want within limits and sometimes without. (all depends on you)
BDSM can consist of light pain or severe pain. Blindfolding to complete body wrapping. Hand tying to a rope wrapped around your entire body very tightly. It just all depends on what you like and the limits you set for your play time.
Remember, those who do practice BDSM, they do so because they want to, not because they are made to. There are very specific rules in BDSM that most people abide by. So do not ever think that those who are into it are made to participate, cause it is not so !
I personally like a little light bondage.. That’s it though.. Smacking ass, tying up, blindfolding, nipple suctions, force fullness, etc… YES… I do however have my limits.. There will be no blood shed at all (or I’ll kick some ass), No needles (shit), no peeing or shitting on me (cause uhmm NO, disgusting), no walking me around with some collar and chain.. (doesn’t work for me), and definitely NOTHING to do with my feet..(I hate my feet touched..:-/)
Now that you have a little idea of what it is, here are some key terms and there definitions you might have heard but had no idea as to what they were.. I will continue this blog in part two, so no worries!
CHEMICAL PLAY…. Any form of sensation play involving the use of mild irritants such as wintergreen oil, menthol, Tabasco sauce, and the like to create sensation. ( Tabasco sauce, damn scary)
CLEAVE GAG… A type of gag, usually made of cloth, that is pulled tightly between the wearer’s teeth and tied behind the head. The cleave gag forces the mouth partway open and is quite effective in preventing speech.. ( oh yes )
And………….
COCK AND BALL TORTURE (CBT): Any of a number of different practices involving pain play of the penis and testicles, including such practices as binding, compressing, striking, or stretching the penis or testicles. (uhmm I am not into doing this either.. NO)
First and foremost I am a wife and a mother of seven fabulous children.
I am extremely blunt, obnoxious, and love taking serious things and making them a little bit less serious.
I rarely give a shit about what people have to say about me.. So you can be rude, I do not mind!
I love to write about sex as well as crime. Sometimes the two together as well.
Depending on the circumstances.
. I can answer basically any questions regarding sex as honest and without reservations with no problems. Basically, you will get a very open answer if you were to ask me a question. I will not use big words that many people do not understand. Not because I personally do not understand them, but for the simple reason that a lot of people get confused by such technical explanations.
There is much more to know, but I would rather you ask ME !
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